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| The Basics | Reprogram your mind to become a saver
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The best time to change your habits is before a financial crisis hits. Here are some steps to developing a saver's mind-set.
By Bankrate.com
Saving is not the American way. We're a society of spendthrifts. But saving can become your way if you develop a different mentality.
There are plenty of reasons why it's hard to change our misbegotten spendthrift ways. We're bombarded by advertisements on television, radio and in print that equate spending with happiness and encourage instant gratification. There's also that ubiquitous, keeping-up-with-the-Joneses phenomenon. "People believe that to be socially accepted, they have to buy things," says Billie G. Blair, an organizational psychologist and owner of Leading and Learning, a management consulting firm in Los Angeles.
Saving isn't instantaneous. It takes time and forethought.
Before you can make the switch, you need to consciously decide that's what you really want to do. You have to commit to it and be willing to change. "It's a behavioral change that must come from the individual believing that it's important enough to commit to," Blair says.
For some, hitting rock bottom can be the jolt that motivates change. Many fall into that abyss when they face the prospect of losing a home, overwhelming credit card debt, a job loss or a family illness that causes severe financial hardship.
But if you haven't been pushed over the cliff yet, some self-introspection can do the trick. Take a good look at your finances and where you'll be 20 years from now if you don't stop spending and start saving instead. The realization that you'll be living lean during your retirement may be an incentive to change, says Bobbie Munroe, a certified financial planner with Fraser Financial in Atlanta.
After you commit to change, spend time deciding what you want to spend your money on. This doesn't mean you have to start thinking about a "budget" exactly. Instead, take a more visionary look at your finances and your financial goals. What is really important to you? For some, it may be a home, their children's education or maybe being able to become a ski bum.
"Set a goal, because saving money just to save money is not all that gratifying," Blair says. Having a stated-saving goal, whether a vacation or a new Wolf range for your kitchen, will provide the impetus.
The Zen of spending
Next, become aware of what you're spending money on. Many of us get detached from our spending. We use a credit card and it somehow isn't as real as pulling out a $20 bill or using a debit card that automatically deducts from our checking account. Get in touch with what you are spending money on and when.
Keep a spending diary, and write down every expenditure and the circumstances surrounding it. This will not only put yourself in touch with your "inner spender," it will point out why you shop. For example, is shopping an emotional release? Something you do when you're upset or bored?
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Keeping a spending diary will also let you find quick-and-painless ways to save money. Maybe you'll discover you're spending $20 a week on lattes and you'd be just as happy brewing your own for considerable savings. Or maybe you'll see how much you're spending on finance charges for your credit card and will decide it's better to pay by check or simply withdraw more money from the ATM. "The most-effective thing you can do is look at the hidden ways that money leaks out of your life," says Tina B.Tessina, a psychotherapist in Long Beach, Calif.
Steve Rhode, president of MyVesta.org, a nonprofit consumer education organization in Rockville, Md., suggests looking at alternatives to your fixed expenses. Many people spend too much money on car loans, insurance, phone service and so on. Investing a little time in comparison shopping can save big bucks without having to sacrifice. "It's a way to reduce expenses without changing your lifestyle," Rhode says.
He also suggests starting out small. Set achievable savings goals. "If you take little manageable steps and increase your savings without totally depriving yourself, you'll be more likely to stick with it," Rhode says.
Crash diets never work because dieters feel so hungry and deprived that they end up bingeing on food. Sometimes going on a diet can actually lead to a weight gain, as dieters go from eating grapefruit only to splurging on a pint of Hagen Dazs.
It's the same thing with saving. Set attainable goals and "have dessert once in a while," Munroe says. For example, if you receive a small inheritance, sock away 80%, but spend 20%. "It will increase the likelihood that you'll save the remaining 80%" instead of putting 100% away, feeling deprived, and then spending it all, Munroe says.
The other way to get and stay motivated about saving is to do the financial equivalent of hiring a personal-fitness trainer by signing on with a financial planner. That doesn't mean you have to meet with a financial planner on a weekly basis, but meet with him or her initially to help draw up your savings program, and then meet every three or six months to go over whether you are keeping to your saving plan. Having an objective third-party involved will help make you accountable and will increase the odds that you will succeed. However, this can be a costly way to save (just as it is costly to lose weight with a personal trainer).
Get support from friends
If someone you know also wants to change from a spending to a saving mentality, join forces. For example, if dining out is one of your vices, maybe you and your friend could cook a gourmet meal together. That way you'll be sated, without wining and dining. At the same time, you may want to spend less time with friends who love to shop, since hanging out with them will only influence you to spend money.
Consider joining a support group. People are more likely to lose and keep weight off or stop drinking if they join Weight Watchers or Alcoholics Anonymous. "It's a tried-and-true way for changing behavior," says Blair. Debtors Anonymous has 500 meetings in 13 countries. Spenders Anonymous members also focus on trying to rein in spending. (You can find local chapters on their Web sites.)
If you have real deep-seated psychological issues involving spending, consider working with a psychologist or a life coach. A psychologist can help those with serious issues, whereas a life coach may be appropriate for those who have some problems, but aren't totally out of control.
Save on a subconscious level
Since spending money without thinking often leads people to become spendthrifts, consider ways you can "subconsciously" save. For example, once you've finished paying off your car, put that same amount of money away each month into a savings account, says psychotherapist Tessina. Automatic deductions from your checking account into a savings account are a wonderful way to save without pain, adds Rhode of Myvesta.org.
Rhode recommends looking for a high-yielding savings account with a bank on the Internet. You can set up an automatic savings deduction, and, because the account is online, it's harder to withdraw money from it than simply marching into a local bank branch with an ATM card.
Similarly, make it hard to spend money. If you really can't resist spending, don't carry a lot of cash on you -- only what you need for your assigned shopping expedition -- and leave the credit cards at home. Tessina suggests wrapping up a credit card in paper, maybe with a message on it saying, "Do I really need to buy this?" -- anything that will cause you to pause and reflect before you spend.
Avoid impulse purchases
Plan your shopping expeditions. Carry a shopping list with you and only buy what's on that list. Keep in mind that retailers purposely lay out their stores to make you spend more time (and money) in their stores.
"Stores are designed to make you stop thinking. If you maintain your awareness all the time when you shop, you'll be less likely to fall for impulse purchases," Tessina says. Avoid sales and bargain hunting. Sure, you may lose out on some good prices, but you'll ultimately spend less when you buy what you need rather than buying on a whim because it's a good deal.
At home, throw out all your mail-order catalogs without looking at them. Request to get your name taken off of catalogers' mailing lists. Only shop from catalogs or online when you truly need an item or it is your planned indulgence of the week. Consider doing more shopping online if stores tend to trigger the shopper in you.
Realize that change doesn't happen overnight and that you're likely to slip every now and again. Just acknowledge the slip and get back to saving. "They don't call it investing for nothing. It takes time and patience," says Barbara Rubin, a psychologist in Atlanta.
Finally, know that change comes from within and not from an article, a book on how to save money, or a late-night television show.
"I like to say that prosperity is an insider job," Rubin says. "It flows within us all the time. It's how we choose to handle our lives."
By Jenny C. McCune, Bankrate.com
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